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Kameron Hurley

It should also really NOT be this hard, tho. I know lots of people who want children but don't because they know that it's not fair to a potential child to do so with current resources

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ML Brennan

Oh, my god, yes! So many of my peer group took really hard looks at their finances and what was possible and either made the decision not to have kids (which is really sad when they wanted them!) or had fewer kids than they really wanted (which is also really sad, because, again -- desire).

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ML Brennan

It's why I have absolutely zero patience with the politicians who are whining and whinging about the whole "fertility problem." It's like, you actually want people to have kids? This isn't hard. You need long, long parental leaves, fully paid. You need health insurance that isn't tied to jobs.

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ML Brennan

You need publicly funded and available daycare and childcare options that are available for working adults. You need to make sure that there is affordable and available housing for families. You need a strong infrastructure of community parks, playgrounds, and community centers.

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ML Brennan

That's just a spitballing list, but most politicians who are fixated on this issue just go for "criminalize abortion," "get rid of birth control," "offer $50 coupon on diapers to new families," and then are mad that they didn't get their piles of white babies.

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ML Brennan

Jennifer Senior has done a huge amount of great writing on this topic (I love her book ALL JOY NO FUN) and she had an article in the New York Times that was really interesting -- she was talking about how what incentives, done well, would do is not make childless people have kids, but--

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ML Brennan

(because chosen childless people do not want kids, for a host of excellent personal reasons) --but the right incentives make people with one child have two, or people with two children decide to have a third.

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Ranamar

I heard that title all the way back when it came out, (many years before I had a kid) and it has stuck with me ever since. I'm both very curious about it and worry that I would not actually focus my way through a nonfiction book, these days.

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ML Brennan

I read it the summer before I had my first child, and it was truly excellent, and really helped me mentally recalibrate. I got it after I heard an interview with Senior about it on NPR. It's worth checking out -- it's definitely written for a layperson audience, and it's very readable.