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Art is vital to our lives. So is insightful criticism of that art. It's great! But you know what happens if you clutch a beloved thing too hard for too long? Your hand cramps up, and soon holding it is more painful than any pleasure the object gave you. Just chill, like, 10% of the time.

It'll sound like heresy, but the antidote to a lot of this is to take both art and criticism *just a little* less seriously. Our virtue doesn't ride on every stranger's sentence. Discussing the arts is what we do with friends. I couldn't survive if I read with my guard up 24/7.

I absolutely think we have to consider the merits for living creatures.

But it is much better for the chickens.

Nature’s nail zippers.

Look, if universal healthcare hasn’t been granted, first on the list.

I honestly was super excited for that. And it didn’t happen. But I feel like they did it that way due to the backasswards way Nick was treating them re renewal. Like they didn’t know if they’d get another season so they wrapped it up. And then tackled some of what they wanted in S3/4.

Hrm. It would probably induce the pulling sensation too.

BODY-FOCUSED REPETITIVE BEHAVIOR (BFRB) Impulse-control behaviors involving compulsively damaging one's physical appearance or causing physical injury. Associated with OCD, ADHD, and anxiety. Can be focused on skin, mouth, nails, nose, hair, and/or eyes. en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Body-fo...

Shout out to my fellow BFRB sufferers. Times are TOUGH, and I know I am not alone in feeling like my compulsions are on top of me. Be kind to yourself. ❤️

If only knee patches were in vogue. I have some non-bFRB stims too. Tapping, vocal stims, etc.

Anyway, summer is a perfect storm of vectors bc of sweat and heat and ugh things. So yep. Caught myself overdoing it. Gonna have to have husband bandaid me tomorrow.

As an autistic, skin picking serves as a sensory seeking stim. As an aDHD person, boredom can be one trigger, and as an anxious person, anxiety. Three vectors. I actually like the sensation which is tricky bc small fidgets distract but do not replace.

So I have cycled through various forms of body focused repetitive behaviors (BFRBs) since childhood. - hairchewing (peaked in 5th grade, tailed off) - nail biting (the most common BFRB) - I do it but almost never debilitatingly to point of harm - skin picking. Hooboy.

Skin picking is common for Autists. Many of us use it as a stim, which growing up was likely less noticeable, than stims we’d get in crap for. It’s reinforcing, too, as once you start, the more you want to keep going to try and even it out. Can you relate? #autistic #audhd #skinpicking #stimming

Heck I only learned about the term BFRB *last year*. (Body-focused repetitive behavior). Literally just grew up assuming my nail picking/biting was due to anxiety, or stress, or boredom. Meanwhile people see gnarly fingernails and assume you're a terrible person or a slob, so that's been Fun.

Might finally be winning my battle against dermatillomania/BFRB/skin picking and the solution was these weird fuckers (started using cuticle oil too)

I feel like flaking out on ADHD appointments needs to be a diagnostic criteria for ADHD.

Husband is all, “Don’t even try to focus this time.” Me: oh, I’m gonna be off the chain. I’ll be nice but I am not gonna mask AT ALL.

I think everyone who knows me IRL was flabbergasted that I didn’t come away with an adhd dx in the first ten minutes. But I made a critical error of trying too hard to pay attention and not chat over her when she asked. All that effort to get No.