18+ 🔞 NSFW occasionally, grey ace but kinky: gear, BDSM, nudism, pup play, and other topics here. Quite well into my dad era. Adult media/porn properly labeled. DMs OK. Plural; they/he/any. Links: kinktodd.com
This is a serious problem in cis gay male spaces and it deserves to be called out. My generation (GenX) is particularly guilty of this. We have to make a point to be welcoming without infantilizing. More in the 🧵.
Jay 🏍️🏳️⚧️🏳️🌈I feel the need to say something. I feel rejected from cis gay spaces a lot of the time. Or perceived as less than. I’m a top without a “real” dick. In queer spaces, my gender isn’t “fucked” enough. I’m too close to *real* men. I used to use He/They. To fit in. I dropped it. 2/
We need to fix how we talk about men. It’s not like the police where you can just say ACAB. The men aren’t the problem. The systems are. It’s possible to give men the space to be vulnerable, to work together to dismantle the systems of patriarchy in a way that’s fucking healthy. 3/
