I will support you on that COMPLETELY, tho it's indeed a process and as much as I thought several times before that the matter could maybe still be more linked to my free will, it was hard to really understand the weight of this in practical therms
looking at me had to do with how I felt about being an ugly dude, for me, had more to do with how I wanted to dress than how I wanted my face to be.
This and obviously all the psychological things that comes with low self esteem and etc etc, hope you understand.