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What’s more infuriating to a survivor than someone mistaking privilege for discipline, a safe upbringing for courage, or shaming others as wisdom? Remember, their misunderstanding doesn't erase what we survived, what happened to us mattered. Their privilege doesn't diminish our strength. ❤️‍🩹 #cptsd

Every moment of self-compassion is a step towards recovery. Be kind to yourself, always. ❤️‍🩹 I’ll be taking a break for a bit 🙏🏼. Still working my recovery, day at a time.

One of the cruelties of trauma recovery is realizing that perfection was never going to make our childhoods whole. We were deceived, perhaps for decades - most of recovery is acceptance and grieving. The light: We have a chance to build a life now, based on the values we choose. #cptsd

It's never gonna be fair that trauma recovery requires fixing what other people broke. But unfair isn't the same thing as impossible. We can acknowledge the injustice & we can heal. Every small recovery step forward is a refusal to let others' actions continue programming our lives. ❤️‍🩹 #cptsd

Many recoveries need to learn to harness the f*ck ’ems. We can use anger to set boundaries and protect our recovery values. Its a fuel we can use to consistently turn to healing, so f*ck ’em, we ain't abandoning ourselves. A spite recovery can still be a good recovery. #cptsd

My piece was picked up by Know Thyself, Heal Thyself! From Tony Robbins to Mel Robbins, the mindset grift is everywhere. Despite this, adopting a new mindset offers surprisingly little strategic guidance for trauma recovery; too often, it’s used to bully and shame survivors. tinyurl.com/uacast26

The Grift of the Social Media Self-Help CoachHealing from Trauma is Not a Mindset Hackmedium.com

Excellent article, worth a read. "One of the cruelest surprises of trauma recovery is that healing often makes you less functional before you feel better." "Yet the reality is, forgiveness is not a milestone, and it is not required. Healing comes through mourning." Much more! tinyurl.com/yc84ftu8

Hard Truths About Trauma Recovery That Can’t Be Positivity-Coached AwayHealing has been aestheticized into something almost unrecognizabletinyurl.com

"People have this idea that PTSD is about what happened to us, and it is— but CPTSD is mostly defined by what it gets us to believe. The lies it gets us to believe." useyourdamnskills.com/2026/06/11/c...

CPTSD is a lying liar that lies.CPTSD will straight up lie to us.  Thats’ what CPTSD does best, actually. Lie.  It lies to us about who we are.  It lies to us about what we deserve.  It lies to us about what w…useyourdamnskills.com

Before recovery, while struggling with professional impostor syndrome, #growthmindset seemed like the answer. But it never quite solved my problems. Only recently, I discovered much of the mindset hype was unfounded. Here's some things I've been reading & thinking: #cptsd tinyurl.com/4uw3pbyj

Debate Arises over Teaching "Growth Mindsets" to Motivate StudentsResearch shows conflicting data on the impact of the intervention, but a major new study confirms it can worktinyurl.com

The “could haves” will eat survivors alive if we don’t treat who we are right now with empathy, compassion & dignity. The toxic combination of hindsight and fantasy will derail the commitments we've made to ourselves today. Work on today. That's where all of our power lies. #cptsd #recovery

On the writer's anvil: Shame lacks an internal fight response. Shame’s action is to shrink into nothingness, to blink out of existence, to crawl into a hole. The pain of shame’s exposure and visibility can only be resolved through invisibility, through self-erasure. #lifewriting #cptsd

Humans have dealt with immense loss & grieving as a sacred process; a period of sacred time that receives our genuine attention and care. Recovery is always about grieving, the loss of a childhood that should have been. But recovery is about meaning-making too, recovery is a sacred process.✨ #cptsd

Here's a longer personal reflection on doing recovery writing on social media. Do I think its playing a small part in my recovery? Absolutely, I do. I try to explain a little about my method here. ❤️‍🩹💪🙏 tinyurl.com/6f37m8cc

On Writing Recovery Aphorisms, Book IA good aphorism can ignite a fire, but can it heal trauma?medium.com