i'm not sure this is true. once the model identifies the type of flattery that a given person's psychology is susceptible to, the model prioritizes text that will engage them further. men are socialized to be dominant and brilliant; women as emotional and intuitive. there's plenty of text for both

Tressie McMillan Cottom

I sincerely believe that men cannot handle this. women may be falling in love with their chat bots, too. But I don't think they are categorically attached to its flattery to the same degree.